5 Reasons You're Failing at Losing the Baby Weight

CONFESSION: After my first child, my baby weight basically fell off (side note: she was born 2 months, but I had already gained about 35 pounds). My second child was full term and I gained about 55 pounds (yikes!). I lost about 25 pounds right away and thought to myself, “Oh, this will be easy...” Boy, was I wrong. It may not be fair (or accurate) to say, but it’s now 5 years later and I think I’m still holding on to some of that baby weight.

You see, after my second child I tried #allthethings to lose the baby weight.

I breastfed for 18 months - breastfeeding makes the weight fall off doesn’t it? It can help, but not always.

I counted calories.

I obsessed over the scale.

I drank a lot of coffee and didn’t eat a lot (this was also because I was extremely sleep deprived, as we all are with a new baby).

I tried a juice cleanse, a little exercising, and just about every diet I could try.

And you know what happened?

Not a whole lot. I maybe lost 5 or 10 pounds only to quickly gain them back.

I started not caring how I dressed, because I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin or the clothes I was wearing.

I avoided going out or dressing up at all costs.

I wore oversized sweaters and yoga pants became a staple (let’s be real, they still are!).

I hated shopping for clothes, something I used to love, and I avoided mirrors as much as possible.

And the crazy part about all of this, I was really only 10-15 pounds heavier than my pre-baby weight. And my body just friggen gave birth to a human!!

It’s crazy how magical our bodies are and yet, as women we have very little appreciation for it after childbirth.

I hear from clients all of the time, “I just need to lose this baby weight.” or “If only I could wear my favorite pre-baby jeans again….” or “I can’t stand my post-baby body”.

But the thing is we are not going to get anywhere HATING our bodies. This quite often is the exact reason we end up overeating, binging, or emotional eating. And that’s not what we want is it?

10 Daily Steps to Less Stress for Busy Moms

10 Daily Steps to Less Stress for Busy Moms

As an entrepreneur with a side job, 2 kids, a dog, and a household to care for life can be overwhelming and stressful.

I used to have the belief that when I was stressed it was a good sign because it meant that I was busy and I would performed better with the added pressure. I also didn't believe there was a whole lot you could do about it. 

After many years of stress and struggle and a whole lot of research, I finally learned the importance of managing stress and I've created healthy habits that help me stay calm.

The truth is while some stress can be beneficial, stress can also be extremely detrimental to your health.

Did you know that studies have linked stress to:

  • increased appetite

  • higher risk of heart disease and related death

  • pre-existing conditions get worse

  • higher chance of picking up unhealthy habits (such as smoking, drinking, binge eating, ect.)

  • higher chance of fat around the abdomen

  • weakened immune system

  • and some studies even show a link between stress and cancer

Pretty crazy, right?

How to Ditch the Diet Mentality in 7 Simple Steps

I’ve shared with you many reasons why you should ditch dieting, but I haven’t exactly shared with you how to let go of the dieting mentality that we are all so used to.

If you’ve come to terms with letting go of dieting, yet you still struggle with the nagging thoughts such as:

“How many calories are in this?”

“Ahh, I can’t eat carbs.”

“I was so bad with my eating today.”

“Once I lose the weight, then I’ll __________ (fill in the blank)”

YOU are in the right place!

I’ve created this in depth blog post to teach you exactly why and how you can let go of the diet mentality so that you can start creating healthy habits that actually last.

Did you know….?

What To Do When You Have A Love-Hate Relationship With Food

You love & enjoy the taste of a warm fudgey brownie topped with creamy french vanilla ice cream.

Until the guilt and shame sets in after eating it. You feel stuffed and your stomach hurts. Once again you were weak and gave into your self-sabotaging ways.

You quickly decide that you're going to give up eating dessert & you must start a diet tomorrow.

In your mind, you curse that darn brownie and wish it wasn't so delicious. You wish you could just have some self-control and not give in to every craving you have.

Your love for food is quickly turned into detest and you contemplate giving food up completely... "maybe I should do a juice cleanse or just starve myself!?".

Does any of this sound familiar?

The struggle is real.

I love to cook & I love to eat. I think food is one of life's greatest pleasures. But for years, I hated that I loved food so much. 

I used to think if the highly-processed, overly sweetened, extra salty foods didn't exist we'd all be a whole lot healthier, skinnier, and happier, right?

I would use food as a way to numb my feelings, comfort me when I was sad, or as a way to punish myself by restricting it. 

I've learned over the years that it's okay to love food and it's possible to have a healthy relationship with food. 

I've learned that real peace and happiness actually comes when we decide to stop looking at food as simply a way to control our weight.

If you can really want to transform your relationship with food, it's time you fall back in love with it. 

 

5 Tips to Fall Back In Love With Food

1. Redefine Food - In order to develop a better relationship with food we must redefine it. Instead of viewing food as bad or good, I want you to start thinking of it as Food = Fuel & Nourishment. All food provides you with the energy to survive and thrive. Some food gives your more energy that lasts while others may give you a boost of energy that quickly fads away. Food is also a way to nourish your body and soul. A hot soup or stew may comfort you in the middle of winter. A nice crisp salad may refresh you and provide you with essential nutrients. A piece of cake may be just the thing to eat when your celebrating your child's birthday. When we look at all food as fuel and/or nourishment, we are able to always feel good about the choices we make when we eat.  

2. Allow All Food - We must stop restricting and depriving our selves of food if we want to have a better relationship with it. I'm sure you have a list in your head of foods that are so-called "bad" or "off-limits". But the thing is when we deprive ourselves of certain foods we can become obsess with it and eventually end up binge-eating it. By allowing all foods, we can simply eat what we want and move on.

3. Be curious - It's time we start looking at our food choices from a place of curiosity rather than judgment. We can be so hard on ourselves and it's time we take a step back and realize we are just human. When you eat something you used to consider "off-limits" ask yourself, "Why did I want to eat this?" "How did it make me feel?" "What emotions did I feel before, during, and after I ate it?". Looking at our choices with a new lens will allow you to learn so much more about yourself than if you simply judge and beat yourself up over it. 

4. Eat mindfully -This one shouldn't be much of a surprise. When we eat mindfully we can really be present & enjoy the food we are eating. Make sure to eat without distraction, engage your senses, honor your hunger and fullness, and practice gratitude for the amazing food that you have access to. Want to learn more about mindful eating? Sign up for my free course here!

5. Give up dieting - Dieting is the main reason so many women struggle with their relationship to food. The dieting industry has taught us that there is such a thing as "good" or "bad" food. It has taught us to eat less, count calories, and obsess over what we put into our mouthes. It has taught us that thinness is the only way to happiness. The reality is that none of this is true. Diets do not work and they definitely will not make you happy. Are you ready to learn how to ditch dieting for good?


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Do you struggle with a love/hate relationship to food? Let me know in the comments if you have any questions - I'd love to help you out!! 

How to Create The Ultimate Nighttime Routine

I’ve always considered myself to be a night owl.

I’ve also always struggled with shutting off my mind so that I could fall asleep. The second my head would hit the pillow, my mind would race. I would start to think of all the things to do or all the things that scared me or even excited me. It’s like my mind instantly would rev up and go crazy.

I used to use alcohol, tylenol pm, comfort food, or binge watching tv until I was so tired that I’d finally just fall asleep. This would just make me feel horrible in the morning and then I’d be exhausted and droggy throughout the whole next day.

When I started to eat healthier and learn more about wellness I realized how important sleep was and I knew I had to start making sleep a priority. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always loved sleeping, but I wanted to find away to better fall asleep and sleep peacefully through the night. Over the years I’ve really learned that I need a good 8-9 hours to feel my best and have productive day. Before, I didn’t realize that I actually had the ability to fall asleep easier and get a better night of sleep by just creating a relaxing nighttime routine.

 

Here Are 3 Tips for Creating Your Ultimate Nighttime Routine:

1. Start Winding Down 1 Hour Before You’d Like To Fall Asleep  

This means turning off all electronics and television in order to let your mind begin to rest. Research has shown that the blue lights coming from these devices suppress the production of melatonin which can delay sleep and lead to less REM sleep. This can cause you to wake up still feeling tired even after 8 hours of sleep.

2. Do Something Nourishing For Your Mind, Body, & Soul

During this hour without electronics find rituals or routines that really make you feel good. Some amazing suggestions I love are:

  • Meditating
  • reading an actual book (something light, fun, or inspiring)

  • Journaling

  • Face mask

  • Light candles

  • Take a bath or shower

  • Diffuse calming essential oils

  • Mix with coconut or sesame oil with essential oils to massage all over your body

Find an activity that makes you feel relaxed and pampered right before bed and it will help you sleep like a baby.

3. Brain Dump & Gratitude

This step has been critical for me and has allowed me to fall asleep so much faster. First, I like to brain dump any to do’s for the next day or anything I am worried about. This allows me to not stress over it because I know it is written down and I can address it in the morning. After, I write a list of things I appreciate or am grateful for that day. I write as many things I can think of and usually feel at peace and happy right before bed.

 

Well, those are my simple yet VERY effective tips for creating the perfect nighttime routine to help you sleep peacefully.


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Tell Me - What do you do as part of your nighttime routine or what are you planning to change? I’d love to hear in the comments below!

Want To Be A More Intentional Mother? 13 Resources to Read, Watch, & Listen To To Get Inspired

If you read my post on My Quest for Minimalism & Living a More Intentional Life, then you'll understand why I am writing this post. 

Being a Mother, business owner, partner, and women can be overwhelming at times. The best thing I have done to help with my feelings of overwhelm and anxiety is diving into resources that help me to remember what is really important and how to make the most out of this one precious life. 

These are the books, documentary, and podcast that have informed & inspired me on this journey towards living with more intention. I suggest picking one that resonates with you the most and just get started!

What To Do When You "Slip Up"

We all have days where we just can’t seem to keep it together.

I used to constantly “fall off the wagon” every Thursday and like clockwork, I’d begin my next diet on Monday.

It was an endless cycle that just wouldn’t end.

A while back I read this post “Have you “fallen off the wagon?” by the lovely Isabel Foxen Duke and it made me re-think the way I was approaching my healthy eating and diet mentality.

What wagon was I constantly falling off of?

Well, my own self-created wagon of course.

Not only was I creating the “wagon”, but I was inevitably creating my own demise by having a wagon in the first place.

The thing is when we restrict and try to “diet”, we are often setting ourselves up for disappointment. We set such high expectations that when we seem to veer off even just slightly, we instantly feel like we were bad or that we lack motivation.

When we tell ourselves we are “bad” or when we feel disappointed in ourselves it is demotivating. This is when we end up feeling so awful that we just want more cookies, chips, or other highly processed foods.

The last thing we need is to feel demotivated, am I right?

So, you’re probably wondering, well then what the heck do I do?

Here are 3 Tips to Stop Feeling like You Slipped Up

  1. Stop dieting - I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again... Dieting does not work. Research proves that it doesn’t work. Ask yourself, Have you had real lasting success with dieting yet?  If you need more help with this one, read this post just for you!

  2. Release judgement - Let go of the self-imposed lines you’ve drawn around food and stop judging each choice you make. Try to come from a place of curiosity instead of judgment. Say to yourself, “This is interesting. I’m feeling tired and sad and craving chocolate cake.” You will learn a whole lot more from being curious about the choices you make than from being a harsh critic. If you just can’t stop the judgment, head over here for more tips.

  3. Change your thoughts - Your thoughts create your feelings which create your actions. Example: If you think “Shoot, I fell off the wagon again!! I suck!”. This will leave you feeling sad, mad, or guilty, which then usually leads you to binge-eat your feelings away. Instead, practice positive thinking and/or affirmations. A great affirmation I love is "Food is not the enemy and I thank the food I eat for nourishing me." The important part to remember about affirmations is that they only work when you believe them and when you practice saying them. So find an affirmation that you actually believe and practice saying it daily. Click here to get my list of my favorite affirmations!

 

Remember, this is a big mindset shift so be patient with yourself. If you want a little more help with changing your mindset in this area, I highly recommend checking out these books Health at Every Size, Body Respect, & Intuitive Eating.


Tell me - What do you usually do when you “slip up” &  what would you like to do instead? Share in the comments below!

My Quest To Minimalism & 7 Ways to Live More Intentionally

First, let me state my despise for the word "minimalism". It seems like such a trend or fad that I want no part in. It makes me think of some pretentious person who thinks shopping is evil and white walls are the only way to go. I even hate typing the word because I misspell it every single time. But I digress. As much as I wanted to not give in to this whole minimalism thing.. somehow after many articles, a documentary, and a podcast I got sucked in. And to my surprise it wasn't quite what I thought...

So lately, I've been on a quest to simplify all areas of my life. I've really been inspired by the whole minimalism movement & although I've always been quite the opposite of a minimalist (a borderline hoarder), I am really working hard to change my ways. Because lets be real, life is chaotic and stressful enough, why make it more it more complex & complicated?!

Minimalism, or simplifying, is really about peace of mind and living with intention to me. And I'm all about that living with intention! I'm just so over living in survival mode, ya know!?

Have Your Cake & Eat It Too: Why It's Okay To Eat What You Want

Have you ever desperately wanted a piece of cake, but resisted the urge due to the fear that it would go straight to your ass?

Or have you been given a gift of a box chocolates only to throw them away, obsess over them for hours, and even contemplate digging them out of the trash can?

Or perhaps, you really wanted a slice pizza, but you had a salad instead, only to binge eat an entire pizza later that night?

If you can relate to any of these situations then you are in the right place.

This is all too common for so many of my clients (and myself).

We restrict and deprive ourselves of food which leads to obsessively thinking about it. Then, we often binge and feel extremely guilty about our lack of willpower.

This is a terrible cycle to be in. And it’s really no way to live. (I've been there and I'm glad to be past it!)

It’s time we all start focusing on the allowance of all food. No food should be off limits, not even the unhealthy foods.

We need to come to terms with the fact that sometimes we may crave junk food and that’s okay.

By allowing ourselves to eat what we want, we are opening ourselves up to feeling free from food. We no longer need to obsessively think about that piece of cake or slice of pizza, we can simply eat it if we want it and move on.

Yes, it’s really that simple. Eat it and move on.

The more we practice allowing ourselves to have what we want, the easier it will become for us to just eat a little until we feel satisfied instead of feeling completely crazy around food.

Every time I use to completely eliminate something out of my diet I became obsessed and fixated on it. It just made me want it even more. Have you been there?

It wasn’t until I stopped dieting and allowed myself to eat mindfully and intuitively that I was able to eat what I want and not feel like a crazy person obsessed with food.

So, if you’re ready to stop the restriction and deprivation, and start living and enjoying yourself then below are a few tips to help you get started.

5 Steps to the Allowance of all Food & Eating What You Want

  1. Write down 3 Separate Lists: 1) list all the foods that you feel should be off limits or are unhealthy 2) list the foods you think you should be eating and/or healthy foods 3) now combine list 1 + 2 and label it: “I CAN EAT IT IF I WANT TO, IT IS MY CHOICE” Now, place this on your fridge or somewhere as a reminder.

  2. Before eating anything pause and ask yourself, “Do I really want to eat this? How will this food make my body feel?”. This can be hard at first because a lot of times we tend to eat on autopilot without ever considering if we really want something or not. We just know or think we’re hungry and so we eat. Practice being mindful, pausing and asking the question. If the answer is yes, then go ahead and eat it, guilt free.

  3. Practice eating the foods that were once forbidden without judgment. Try to be curious about why you are eating it, what it tastes like, and how it makes you feel. Try not to focus on the negative thoughts you have associated with these foods.

  4. Savor every bite. Whatever you decide to eat make sure you savor every moment of it. Chew thoroughly, notice the texture and tastes, and take your precious time to enjoy it.

  5. Practice honoring your hunger & fullness cues. When you pay attention to your body signals you really can eat anything you want. Notice how your body feels when it is hungry and notice when you feel satisfied. Try not to eat until the point of complete fullness as it can take a little time for your body to catch up.


*Please Note* At first you may want cookies all day, every day, but trust me, this will get old and you will start to crave healthier foods. Also, when you are really paying attention to how you are eating (slowing down, chewing, savoring, etc.) and the way the food makes your body feel you are more likely to develop a better relationship with food and make better choices more often. And remember, this isn't another way to focus on weight-loss because that rarely works. It's about shifting our mindset around food. It's about FREEDOM from food & PEACE of mind --- now doesn't that sound a whole lot better?


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Now, tell me: How do you feel about just allowing yourself to eat what you want? Does it seem scary or exciting? I'd love to hear in the comments below!!

5 Must-Read Books to Get You Started on A Spiritual Journey

So, I’ve never really considered myself to be a spiritual person. I was baptized and raised Catholic, but we only went to church for Christmas and Easter. I never really 100% understood or felt connected to catholicism, but I’ve always believed in something greater.

In the last few years of creating my business I have been introduced to many spiritual teachers and the law of attraction. All of the information being presented to me seemed to come at the perfect time when I was feeling lonely, anxious, or struggling with food issues or just working on growing my business.

Out of my growing curiosity, I began reading some books on Spirituality and they have helped me to completely transform my life. Through reading these books and learning from many different teachers, I’ve begun to understand that there are some foundational principles that most spiritual teachings and religions all encompass.

After many hours of reading and listening to Spiritual teachers, I've come to believe that having a spirituality practice can be a great way to stay grounded, get through difficult times, and achieve anything you truly desire.

Some of the lessons I've learned through these books are:

  • How to take ownership of my life & stop making excuses
  • How a positive mindset will lead you to all that you desire
  • The way we feel is just as important as what we do when it comes to achieving your goals
  • Obstacles are detours in the right direction
  • When you think you've surrendered, surrender some more
  • Anxiety usually comes from thinking about the past or the future so it's important to focus on the present
  • And many, many more!!

If you are interested in learning more about spirituality and/or the law of attraction, but don’t know where to begin, I’ve compiled 5 of my favorite books that I believe are great for beginners.

10 Things I'm Obsessed With Friday

I've been wanting to start a series on the blog for a while to share all of my current obsessions with you. These are always my favorite types of posts from other bloggers so I figured, why not share my favs with you! 

This series will be bi-weekly or monthly sharing all of my latest foodie, self-care, spiritual, health, wellness, and maybe some random obsessions! I'd also love to hear from you about what you're obsessed with lately in the comments.

I just think it's so fun to share our favorite finds and tips with each other, you know? 

Anyways, here it goes...

How to Start Listening to Your Body & Eat Intuitively

I've written a whole post about Intuitive Eating, but I wanted to dive a little deeper into connecting with your body and actually listening to it.

So Why am I talking about Listening to Your Body & Intuitive Eating? 

Well, when we begin to listen to our body and give it what it wants, we begin to transform our relationship to food and our body. We are able to know when we are actually hungry for food vs. hungry to fill a void or distract ourselves. We are able to know when we are full and actually stop eating because we know that our body is satisfied. We are able to notice when we are feeling sad, mad, or happy and move through those feelings without the use of food. A huge benefit of listening to our body and eating intuitively is that we can finally stop looking to outside sources for the answer and start looking within. We can ditch dieting for good and nourish our body in ways we've forgotten were possible. 

At first it can seem quite simple, and you may have thoughts such as, "of course, I always listen to my body and it usually wants junk food!". These were my exact thoughts when I got started on this journey, so I totally get it.

The reality is our body wants to thrive and feel good, but we've become so good at numbing ourselves with food to avoid our feelings and we've lost connection with our physical sensations. 

When starting out on this journey my clients often say they don't even understand what it means to listen to their body. Really, all it means is to pause and actually tune in to the physical sensations and ask, "How am I feeling? What do I want?" Perhaps your chest feels tight or your stomach is growling, but you are so used to going through your busy day and ignoring your body's sensations that you don't even notice what your body is trying to tell you.

How to Stay Sane When Life Gets Hectic (+20 ways to practice self-care in 5 minutes or less)

"I’m just too busy."

"I have to work, clean, cook, pay the bills, etc."

"My partner, kids, pets always come first."

"Everything will fall apart of I don't do it all."

There’s a million excuses as to why we don’t take care of ourselves. And sometimes, there are very valid reasons or intense pressures which can make self-care or investing in yourself so hard.

It’s even more important to practice self-care when pressures are high. If you have a lot on your plate, you’re stressed to the max, and you are just zooming through each day on autopilot  eventually you’re body is going to crash.

You may get sick, start having digestive issues, headaches, fatigue, and the list could go on. Our bodies are not meant to be stressed out all the time and it will start to affect your body.

Now, it may seem like everyone on the internet is preaching about self-care and you just don’t have time to take an hour long bath or sit and read a novel - and trust me I get it!

The truth is all you need is 5 minutes a day to really nourish yourself in a way that brings you peace and joy and that simple act can make ALL the difference.

Spring Cleaning! Time to Clear the Clutter in your Kitchen, Mind, & Life

Spring is here & you know what that means? It's time for clean up, clear out, and make space in your life for sunshine & the exciting things to come! 

I don't know about you, but after spending a long, cold winter hibernating, there's just something about the Spring weather and energy always lights a fire in me. 

Spring has the energy of a new beginning, more creativity, and joy all around. 

This time of year makes me feel so inspired and ambitious which means it's a great time to start clearing the clutter in your kitchen, mind, and life. 

When we clear out the clutter we space to think better, do more, and be who we really want to be.

Are you Addicted to Being Busy and Overwhelmed?

I have a confession: I used to be extremely addicted to being busy and feeling overwhelmed. 

Now, I understand addiction is very serious and trust me, I don’t take this lightly.

For as long as I can remember, I have self-identified as being busy and overwhelmed. It wasn’t until recently that I started to become aware of the problem and realized that this had been going on for most of my life.

In today's society it is so common for people to almost brag about being busy. It’s often seen as a status symbol and as if we are more “worthy” because we are busy.

Have you ever asked someone how they’ve been and their almost automatic response is “extremely busy”?

I’m not going to lie, but this has been my response to this question for a while, especially since having children. And was I actually busy? Yes, I believe I was, but was it really necessary to be as busy as I was or felt? And did I need to emphasize that I was busy or could I just have answered the question with “Great. I’ve been doing a lot of awesome things”. I definitely think I could have had a better response and I believe it’s really all a matter of perspective.

But back to when I realized this was a huge issue for me.

I was working full-time, taking care of my 2 kids and a household of responsibilities (while my fiancé worked 70+ hours a week), taking college courses, and trying to obtain my health coaching certificate all while trying to start my health coaching business and running an Etsy shop on the side.

Just writing that out is pretty exhausting for me now.

During this time in my life (not too long ago), I began to get very nauseous, dizzy and my anxiety was extremely heightened. If one thing went wrong or I felt slightly criticized, I would quite literally lose my shit.

There were nights of binge-eating or drinking a little too much in order to just NOT think about everything for a second. After 2 weeks straight of feeling nauseous and dizzy I decided to pay a visit to my doctor.

The doctor visit went well. I wasn’t pregnant, suffering from vertigo, or any other serious illness or disease (all thoughts running through my head). My doctor simply said, “We may need to increase the dosage of my anxiety of medication”. I was shocked and horrified. Although I was prescribed medication, I was rarely taking it and definitely didn't want a higher dosage. 

I was studying health and holistic integrative nutrition and yet, I realized I was extremely unhealthy. I didn’t necessarily agree with the fact that I needed more medication. I just realized that I needed to prioritize myself and my health or else who knows what would happen.

Back then, I didn’t recognize my addiction to being busy or overwhelmed. I just thought I was doing what had to be done to get to where I needed to be. I also don’t regret trying to “do it all”, but I’ve come to realize that being busy and constantly overwhelmed is no way to live. Believe it or not, we actually do have a choice on whether we want to live this way or not.

When looking back on the last 10 years of my life, I’ve realized that I was always taking on more than I could handle and performing at a mediocre level in all areas of my life. Since I was SO busy, I made the excuse for myself that B’s in my classes were okay and my “meets expectations” on reviews at work were fine since I was just too busy to give my all anyway.

What I've recently discovered is that I have been avoiding and resisting myself and my life all along.

If I had more time to spare then I would have more time to think, more time to give, and more effort to put in. If I had more time to think, then I would have realized I was completely insecure, had a lot of unresolved emotional issues, and was extremely afraid of failure. If I had more time to give, then people would expect more of me, but what if I wasn’t able to meet their expectations? If I put more effort in and failed, then what excuse would I have?

I’ve spent the last year or so on a journey of self discovery. I’ve spent a lot of time meditating, reading and learning. I’ve realized that I no longer want to live in this fog of busyness and overwhelm. I would much rather feel my feelings and truly experience my life.

I haven’t figured out all of the answers. Sometimes I still take on too much. I even respond with “I’m so busy” from time to time. But each day, I am more aware and working towards a life of peace, presence, and fulfillment. And I truly believe it’s possible.

So, although I may not have a lot to offer you if you are struggling now too, I just to know you are not alone and there is another way.

I believe the first step in the journey is awareness and prioritizing self-care. And by being aware and prioritizing our self-care we can slowly start to change the way we live one day at a time.

SO TELL ME - do you struggle with being addicted to being busy & overwhelmed?

33 Food Rules to Live By for a Healthier Life

I really dislike rules, especially food rules.

I like to do and eat what I like and what I want.

I also think that having specific food rules and restrictions will only lead to obsession over those foods you can’t have or the eventual binge eating of those foods.

I mean, have you ever been told that you shouldn’t eat something because it will make you fat, whether it was by a family member, doctor or the media, only to then start obsessing over that exact food or just eating it any way to prove you can eat it without getting fat?

At the same time, I know a lot of people that actually thrive off living by a set of rules or standards.

And of course, there are people that simply don’t know what to eat because of all the conflicting health information out there.

Everyone is different and I think it’s important to know yourself and learn what works best for you.

What to Do When You're Stressed to The Max

I don't know about you, but lately, I've been stressed to the max.

Between taking classes, kids after school activities, birthday parties, client calls, cleaning my house and running a business, sometimes I just need to breathe and recalibrate.

So even if you're stressed to the max right now, there are still small, practical steps you can take to cope with that stress and stay healthy.

So, why am I talking about stress?

Like it’s not enough to live with stress, now I’ve got to be talking about it too?! Agh.... not fun...!!!

But the truth is that it sure is important to acknowledge stress so you can reduce it or cope with it a little better.

Think of it like aiming for a 1% improvement....you may not be able to change the stressors in your life, but if you can manage the impact on your body 1% better, then you’ll stay healthier and more able to handle the stress.

Worthwhile, yes?

5 Ways to Nourish Yourself Without Food

Lately, I've been focusing on ways to really nourish myself in all areas of my life. 

I thought it was a great time to share some out-of-the-box ways to think about nourishing your body, mind and spirit…

But wait, why am I even using the word “nourishment” if I’m not talking about food?

That’s a great question!

The reason I am using the word nourishment outside of its regular foodie context is because we often find ourselves so over-focused on food that we forget about all the other simple and wonderful ways to nourish ourselves.

What does it mean to nourish myself without food?

We forget that taking a walk in the woods with our dog is calming and rejuvenating.

That lying on your bed listening to your favorite song while feeling the breeze kissing your face is soothing and relaxing.

That feeling the grass tickle your feet as you watch the clouds drift by is as good as meditation!

We actually “eat” all day with our senses… we “consume” our environment through touch, feel, taste, sound and sight.

Why Giving Up on Weight Loss May Just Be the Secret to Getting What You Truly Want

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Before you roll your eyes and think, “I can’t give up on weight loss. I don’t want to be fat forever” please hear me out.

So many of my clients come to me wanting desperately to lose weight and finally reach their “ideal” weight.

But when I dig a little deeper and ask the question “What do you really want?”. Some of the answers I receive are vitality, acceptance, happiness, confidence, a partner, friendships, dream job, and so on.

Most of us believe that once we lose the weight we will have whatever outcome it is we are desperately craving (the guy, the dream job, happiness, ect.).

But the truth is that weight loss does not guarantee anything.

Unfortunately, our society and the media puts this false sense of hope in us that makes us believe that once we lose weight we can have or do whatever we want.

But what if we lose the weight and we still do not feel confident, or still cannot find that partner or dream job?

You may not believe it right now, but this is often what happens when people lose weight.

They come to realize that it actually was never the weight that was the real issue.

Often times there are so many underlying issues that go unresolved when we just focus on weight loss as our goal.

I think it’s time we approach our health and life differently.

I think it’s time we start working on our mental, emotional and physical health from a place of love out of a desire to truly be healthy and happy.

Once we can let go of our unrealistic expectations of reaching this arbitrary “ideal” weight, then I believe we can finally break free from the mental and emotional stress that we are putting on ourselves by obsessing over weight loss.


But wait, How do you actually stop obsessing over weight loss?

 

Here’s my 5 tips to get started shifting your mindset around weight loss:

1. Get Informed & Practice Self-Acceptance. There are quite a few books, podcasts, and blogs that are actually about transforming your relationship with food and your body without focusing on weight loss as the primary goal. I think the best way to start practicing self-love and acceptance is to learn how others have done it and surround yourself with like-minded people. Here are a few of my favorites resources:

Books: Health at Every Size, Intuitive Eating, Body Respect

Blogs: Isabel Foxen Duke, Be Nourished, The Balanced Blonde

Podcasts: Food Psych, Psychology of Eating

2. Ditch the scale: I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again, throw out your scale and stop letting the number on it define you.

3. Focus on Nourishment: Instead of your primary goal being weight loss, how about shifting your mindset and focusing on nourishment. When it’s time to eat ask yourself, “what will make me feel good and nourished?” Also, look at other areas of your life and ask yourself “What needs to be nourished?” Perhaps your relationships need extra attention or you need to tap into your creativity. This simple shift in thinking can really lead to living a more joy filled life.

4. Discover What You Really Want:  Now this one may be a challenge or you may be thinking “Duh! I know exactly what I want”. But, I want to ask you to pause for a moment and ask yourself “What do I think I will get once I lose weight.” As I mentioned earlier, there’s usually a much deeper reason we want to lose weight and it’s important to acknowledge what that is. If this doesn’t come easy to you and you’re just not sure what it is that you really want, I suggest to just start doing things that bring you joy and be curious and aware of what you desire in your life. You could set out to try new activities or travel and just be curious as to what you are lacking or craving in your life.

5. Go After What You Really Want: Now that you know what you want, it’s time to start going after that instead of waiting on the weight. If it’s a boyfriend you truly desire, you do not need to lose weight before you find him. Start dressing up and putting yourself out there just as you are. If you think once you lose the weight you will feel more confident, than instead why don’t  you try to start focusing on way to build up your self-confidence just as you are. A great start would be to read books or blogs and learn more about how you can develop self-confidence now.

 

The benefits of releasing the obsession with weight loss are endless. You may actually be happier, enjoy eating and exercising, feel more confident, have more energy, and finally embrace your true desires.
 

I really hope this blog has opened your eyes to new possibilities that you may not have even considered before. And if you’re still not loving the idea of giving up on weight loss, then I suggest making it a goal for it to not be your primary focus. It’s all about taking baby steps and learning how to shift our mindset around weight loss (which is no easy task!).

The truth is your weight does not define you and your weight will not give you what you truly want.   Only you can do that... and you already have everything you need right inside of you.

 


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Now tell me below in the comments, how does it feel to think of letting go of the obsession with weight loss? 

The Secret Morning Activity that will Boost Your Energy in Just 3-Minutes

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I'm super excited to share this simple technique that can help boost your energy first thing in the morning - WITHOUT even having to get out of bed! 

It's my favorite 3-minute body stretch that will have a powerful affect on your mood and body which may positively impact your whole day!

So, Why am I talking about a body stretch first thing in the morning?

We all know that waking up on the wrong side of the bed and getting a rushed start to the day where you’re racing out of the house with un-brushed teeth AND glugging down your coffee in the car is a bad sign.

Everyone wants to start their day on a good note, which means waking up in a good mood, calm and centered and energized for the day, which isn’t always the case, right?

So why not give your body that stretch it deserves first thing in the morning instead of waiting ALL day long to go and do the exact same stretch at the gym after work?

Here are the steps to this 3-minute energy boosting body stretch:

STEP 1: Set a happy alarm 5 minutes earlier than usual

Your body responds to messages you give it, so give it a happy ring to wake up to! Download your favorite song or nature sound and use that as your happy alarm sound. Set it for 5 minutes earlier than usual. Your body will thank you.

STEP 2: Start your body stretch as soon as you open your eyes

Often when we over-plan to stretch our bodies and take too long to pick out just the right exercise leggings or the right room to stretch in, by the time we are ready to start stretching we are demotivated or distracted or derailed....

So, carpe diem, seize the day by starting your stretch even before you get out of bed! (I mean, does it get any easier than that!?)


Laying down, simply stretch your legs out and reach your arms overhead and really stretch your body or sit up in bed and do the same, this time stretching your arms up to the ceiling.

STEP 3: Finish your body stretch right next to your bed
The KEY here is to honor these 3 minutes you have set aside to stretch your body.

So the trick is to FOCUS your attention inward, breathe DEEP inhales and exhales and stretch up to reach for the sky. You can clasp your fingers overhead to keep your hands together to deepen the stretch.

How will this 3-minute body stretch boost my energy?

You know how sometimes on a chilly morning you need to crank up your car a little more than usual to get the gas circulating faster?

The same is true for our bodies. All they really need to get going is a little kickstart for the day and a simple stretch as soon as you wake up will do it.

I bet you will feel different immediately and that energy boost will GIVE you the energy to make time to boost MORE energy. It’s a happy energy-boosting cycle!

If you are tired of waking up groggy and achy, then click here now to schedule a time to talk with me about more fast and easy ways to stretch your body back to health first thing in the morning.

I am here to help support you with more super easy energy-boosting activities!

What do you do to boost your energy in the morning? Do you think you'll give this body stretch a try? Please share in the comments below!!