It can be very difficult to transform the way we eat when everyone around us seems to be eating junk-food and not caring about the quality of the food they are putting into their bodies.
I’ve struggled for years letting other people’s opinions and actions dictate the way I ate. If my friends were going out for happy hour, then drinks & fried food it was! If my boyfriend and I were too tired to cook, then pizza it was! If I went to someone’s house and they were serving something unhealthy or that I didn’t like I ate it anyway.
I never wanted to draw attention to myself or be seen as “difficult” or “picky”. I also wanted to be easy going and able to have fun with friends without restricting what I ate or drank. No matter how crappy I felt or how badly I wanted to just eat a salad, I followed the crowd and was a people pleaser at best.
It finally came to a point where my health and energy levels HAD to be more important than what anyone else thought of me. I had to make a stand for myself and my health because no one else was going to do it for me. It definitely wasn’t easy at first and there were many moments of self-doubt, but I learned a lot along the way.
If you’ve been struggling to make the commitment to a healthier way of eating then I hope these tips can serve you well.
5 Tips For Eating Healthy With No Support
Focus on Your WHY
It is so important to KNOW your why for any goal or habit you are trying to create. Your why will be the thing that keeps you going when you feel like you can’t or don’t want to. For me, my why is that I want to have the energy to take care of and play with my kids while pursuing my own goals and that means eating healthy and exercising daily have to come first.
2. Do It For YOU
As women and moms, it’s so easy to do everything for everyone else, but it’s important to remember it is OKAY to do something for ourselves. When you eat healthy you will have more energy, better skin, better digestion, and overall feel so much better and that is enough reason to stick to eating healthy even when no one else is. It’s important to be okay with being different and doing things for yourself and no one else.
3. Don’t Try to Change Others
Sometimes when we make changes for ourselves we hope to inspire others to change too. Trying to change others that aren’t ready to change is a losing battle. If they are willing and asking questions then by all means, go ahead and help them out. But when we start trying to convince others to do what we are doing it can create hostile environments. They may feel like you are judging them or suddenly think you are better than them which isn’t what you want. It’s best to stay focused on yourself and hope that by being an example others will want to follow along.
4. Practice saying “No”
This has always been the biggest struggle for me. I simply hate to disappoint or let anyone down, but it is so important to start learning how to say “No” for yourself. If someone asks you to go out for drinks and appetizers and you don’t want to, simple say no or offer a healthier alternative to the plans. Of course, be kind and nonjudgmental with your no’s but don’t be afraid to stand your ground.
5. Find a Community or Coach
The truth is making a lifestyle change such as eating healthier is so much easier when you have like-minded people for support and encouragement. You may not have family or friends that are in the same place as you right now, but there are so many free resources, groups and meetups that you can find online. You can search for facebook groups or go to meetup.com and join a community full of people that are going through similar things as you. You can also find a health coach, oh HEY!! :), or mentor online or in person to help guide you and keep you accountable. You do not have to do this alone!
I hope these tips will help you to feel confident in your choices and allow you to start taking action toward your health goals. I’ve helped many clients overcome this struggle and it always starts with believing that you can do it, even if you have to do it alone.