Have Your Cake & Eat It Too: Why It's Okay To Eat What You Want

Have you ever desperately wanted a piece of cake, but resisted the urge due to the fear that it would go straight to your ass?

Or have you been given a gift of a box chocolates only to throw them away, obsess over them for hours, and even contemplate digging them out of the trash can?

Or perhaps, you really wanted a slice pizza, but you had a salad instead, only to binge eat an entire pizza later that night?

If you can relate to any of these situations then you are in the right place.

This is all too common for so many of my clients (and myself).

We restrict and deprive ourselves of food which leads to obsessively thinking about it. Then, we often binge and feel extremely guilty about our lack of willpower.

This is a terrible cycle to be in. And it’s really no way to live. (I've been there and I'm glad to be past it!)

It’s time we all start focusing on the allowance of all food. No food should be off limits, not even the unhealthy foods.

We need to come to terms with the fact that sometimes we may crave junk food and that’s okay.

By allowing ourselves to eat what we want, we are opening ourselves up to feeling free from food. We no longer need to obsessively think about that piece of cake or slice of pizza, we can simply eat it if we want it and move on.

Yes, it’s really that simple. Eat it and move on.

The more we practice allowing ourselves to have what we want, the easier it will become for us to just eat a little until we feel satisfied instead of feeling completely crazy around food.

Every time I use to completely eliminate something out of my diet I became obsessed and fixated on it. It just made me want it even more. Have you been there?

It wasn’t until I stopped dieting and allowed myself to eat mindfully and intuitively that I was able to eat what I want and not feel like a crazy person obsessed with food.

So, if you’re ready to stop the restriction and deprivation, and start living and enjoying yourself then below are a few tips to help you get started.

5 Steps to the Allowance of all Food & Eating What You Want

  1. Write down 3 Separate Lists: 1) list all the foods that you feel should be off limits or are unhealthy 2) list the foods you think you should be eating and/or healthy foods 3) now combine list 1 + 2 and label it: “I CAN EAT IT IF I WANT TO, IT IS MY CHOICE” Now, place this on your fridge or somewhere as a reminder.

  2. Before eating anything pause and ask yourself, “Do I really want to eat this? How will this food make my body feel?”. This can be hard at first because a lot of times we tend to eat on autopilot without ever considering if we really want something or not. We just know or think we’re hungry and so we eat. Practice being mindful, pausing and asking the question. If the answer is yes, then go ahead and eat it, guilt free.

  3. Practice eating the foods that were once forbidden without judgment. Try to be curious about why you are eating it, what it tastes like, and how it makes you feel. Try not to focus on the negative thoughts you have associated with these foods.

  4. Savor every bite. Whatever you decide to eat make sure you savor every moment of it. Chew thoroughly, notice the texture and tastes, and take your precious time to enjoy it.

  5. Practice honoring your hunger & fullness cues. When you pay attention to your body signals you really can eat anything you want. Notice how your body feels when it is hungry and notice when you feel satisfied. Try not to eat until the point of complete fullness as it can take a little time for your body to catch up.

*Please Note* At first you may want cookies all day, every day, but trust me, this will get old and you will start to crave healthier foods. Also, when you are really paying attention to how you are eating (slowing down, chewing, savoring, etc.) and the way the food makes your body feel you are more likely to develop a better relationship with food and make better choices more often. And remember, this isn't another way to focus on weight-loss because that rarely works. It's about shifting our mindset around food. It's about FREEDOM from food & PEACE of mind --- now doesn't that sound a whole lot better?

Now, tell me: How do you feel about just allowing yourself to eat what you want? Does it seem scary or exciting? I'd love to hear in the comments below!!