What To Do When You Have A Love-Hate Relationship With Food

You love & enjoy the taste of a warm fudgey brownie topped with creamy french vanilla ice cream.

Until the guilt and shame sets in after eating it. You feel stuffed and your stomach hurts. Once again you were weak and gave into your self-sabotaging ways.

You quickly decide that you're going to give up eating dessert & you must start a diet tomorrow.

In your mind, you curse that darn brownie and wish it wasn't so delicious. You wish you could just have some self-control and not give in to every craving you have.

Your love for food is quickly turned into detest and you contemplate giving food up completely... "maybe I should do a juice cleanse or just starve myself!?".

Does any of this sound familiar?

The struggle is real.

I love to cook & I love to eat. I think food is one of life's greatest pleasures. But for years, I hated that I loved food so much. 

I used to think if the highly-processed, overly sweetened, extra salty foods didn't exist we'd all be a whole lot healthier, skinnier, and happier, right?

I would use food as a way to numb my feelings, comfort me when I was sad, or as a way to punish myself by restricting it. 

I've learned over the years that it's okay to love food and it's possible to have a healthy relationship with food. 

I've learned that real peace and happiness actually comes when we decide to stop looking at food as simply a way to control our weight.

If you can really want to transform your relationship with food, it's time you fall back in love with it. 

 

5 Tips to Fall Back In Love With Food

1. Redefine Food - In order to develop a better relationship with food we must redefine it. Instead of viewing food as bad or good, I want you to start thinking of it as Food = Fuel & Nourishment. All food provides you with the energy to survive and thrive. Some food gives your more energy that lasts while others may give you a boost of energy that quickly fads away. Food is also a way to nourish your body and soul. A hot soup or stew may comfort you in the middle of winter. A nice crisp salad may refresh you and provide you with essential nutrients. A piece of cake may be just the thing to eat when your celebrating your child's birthday. When we look at all food as fuel and/or nourishment, we are able to always feel good about the choices we make when we eat.  

2. Allow All Food - We must stop restricting and depriving our selves of food if we want to have a better relationship with it. I'm sure you have a list in your head of foods that are so-called "bad" or "off-limits". But the thing is when we deprive ourselves of certain foods we can become obsess with it and eventually end up binge-eating it. By allowing all foods, we can simply eat what we want and move on.

3. Be curious - It's time we start looking at our food choices from a place of curiosity rather than judgment. We can be so hard on ourselves and it's time we take a step back and realize we are just human. When you eat something you used to consider "off-limits" ask yourself, "Why did I want to eat this?" "How did it make me feel?" "What emotions did I feel before, during, and after I ate it?". Looking at our choices with a new lens will allow you to learn so much more about yourself than if you simply judge and beat yourself up over it. 

4. Eat mindfully -This one shouldn't be much of a surprise. When we eat mindfully we can really be present & enjoy the food we are eating. Make sure to eat without distraction, engage your senses, honor your hunger and fullness, and practice gratitude for the amazing food that you have access to. Want to learn more about mindful eating? Sign up for my free course here!

5. Give up dieting - Dieting is the main reason so many women struggle with their relationship to food. The dieting industry has taught us that there is such a thing as "good" or "bad" food. It has taught us to eat less, count calories, and obsess over what we put into our mouthes. It has taught us that thinness is the only way to happiness. The reality is that none of this is true. Diets do not work and they definitely will not make you happy. Are you ready to learn how to ditch dieting for good?


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Do you struggle with a love/hate relationship to food? Let me know in the comments if you have any questions - I'd love to help you out!!